Breathe in, Breathe out…

Hey readers!

I’ve been wanting to do a post about this since I started (2 days ago) but I thought I’d write some silly posts first before I got too deep. But what’s the point? Why wait, when I could be talking about real and important issues right now. I had already started to write about social groups at school, but I couldn’t get into it. It felt too trivial (for now anyway, don’t worry it will come soon), it’s important we address things like this, so without further ado…


To start off, here is a Wikipedia definition of stress, because to understand, you must know exactly what stress is:

In psychology, stress is a feeling of strain and pressure. Stress is a type of psychological pain. Small amounts of stress may be desired, beneficial, and even healthy. Positive stress helps improve athletic performance.

This response all starts with a part of your brain called the hypothalamus. When you’re stressed, the hypothalamus sends signals throughout your nervous system and to your kidneys.
In turn, your kidneys release stress hormones. These include adrenaline and cortisol.

As a teen, many people (adults in particular) are confused by the fact we get stressed at such a young age. “What have you got to be stressed about!” or “You don’t know what real stress is”. All this is very frustrating to hear because only you know how you feel. Others may think you’re exaggerating, but if that’s how you feel, trust yourself.

“The survey found teens experience both emotional and physical symptoms of stress. Common symptoms include feeling nervous or anxious, feeling tired, procrastinating or neglecting responsibilities, feeling overwhelmed, having negative thoughts and experiencing changes in sleeping habits.”(from

Everything from a big load of school work, a detention, your parents, friends, the list continues… There’s a lot that can set you off, and you quickly feel overwhelmed and want to cry. I know this happens to me at times. Occasionally something as simple as a lot of homework and not enough time or a big test, makes me feel stressed. I feel like crying, breaking something and sad at the same time. It’s a terrible feeling.

Stress can overburden your mind until you feel you can’t think about anything else. You may lose sleep, you may feel jittery, you may feel hot, you may sweat, your might find it difficult to breathe, you might cry, you might have stomach pain, headaches, worsening acne(this annoys me the most) …it can get worse and more serious, but you get the idea.

Funny how a physical thing, like a test or money can wreak so much havoc in your body! Scary, I know!

Negative stress over anything no matter how small must be eradicated from your life, because it has no benefit (although a little bit of stress every now and then isn’t so bad). If stress is taking over, and you feel it’s consuming you, you must do something.

What you can do🙂

Try some and see what works for you!

  1. Take deep breaths- This always relaxes me when I feel I’m about to explode. Breathe in through the nose for four seconds, out your mouth for four seconds.
  2. Create a stress/feelings diary– Last year towards the end of year 9, when I was feeling really overwhelmed, whenever I felt stressed, I’d write down what was stressing me and exactly how I felt. You can do this and keep them in a locked note perhaps or even write it down physically. Sometimes writing down what is stressing makes the problem seem smaller.
  3. Excercise– Before you scoff, I’ve mentioned before i love sport and excercise. Excercise and sports work for relieving stress because your mind is concentrating on something else other than your problems. Recently, when I received some stressful news and my hands started to shake I did the only thing I could think of. I put down my phone, clicked on a playlist and started dancing! (My sister thought I was crazy) Afterwards I felt a lot better as I was distracted and soon after I realised the stress was not worth it. Yoga, dance, Pilates, anything, just to take your mind off it.
  4. Down time– Stress is often caused by a build up of pent up emotions which suddenly make there way out. This is why it’s important, that every once in a while, you have some down time. Whether it’s to bake, paint, read, do something you enjoy every once a week and trust me, you’ll start to feel a lot better.
  5. Get some rest– Sleep is important and vital for a healthy mind and body. Sometimes a good nap can solve all your problems. (This works for me, I always feel better when I wake up!)
  6. Tell someone how you’re feeling- A problem shared is a problem halved. Sometimes telling someone, anyone can make you feel better. Voicing how you feel often makes the problem seem less, maybe the person can even help you!
  7. See a doctor-Sometimes, your stress really is something you can’t control or stop, this is when it’s damaging to your health. As soon as you realise, “Hey, there’s something wrong here” see a doctor to give you the correct medical advice. Occasionally your stress may have something to do with any underlying mental health problems. So if you get worried, see a doctor, there’s no harm in checking.

Things to remember❣️

  • Most of the things you worry about are negative outcomes you think may happen and won’t
  • Other don’t pay as much attention to what you look like and do as much as you think (sorry to disappoint you!)
  • When you can’t think straight, stop.(Unless it’s really important revision and you’re just tired)
  • Don’t ignore your feeling, face them, don’t bury them because when they unearth, you’ll feel worse

I hope this posts helps anyone that often feels overwhelmed by stress whatever the reason, I’m glad I addressed this, we can’t always discuss light topics. Remember increased feelings of stress can lead to depression and anxiety so DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

Thank you for reading and remember, you can’t control the wind, but you can adjust the sails. Look after yourself!


Secondary School Girl💗

6 Reasons I Dislike School🙄

Hey readers!

The fact that I have to return to school on Monday, is slowly sinking in. This holiday I haven’t done much at all, I was even thinking I wanted to go back to school, just to have something to do and see my friends. What was I thinking?!

Here are some reasons I dislike school (not in order):

  1. We have to go – Well you don’t have to but if you don’t your parents get fined or something and they get mad at you because they have to pay and then you realise when they said “Don’t go to school then”, they really meant for you to go to school. (That was oddly specific)
  2. You have to do stuff you don’t want to do like maths tests or cross country – Again you don’t have to, but if you want to avoid getting in trouble, in detention etc (like me) you kind of have to. And if you’re like me you feel obligated to do what’s asked of you. That really sucks.
  3. Tests and revision – If you want to do well at school and get good grades, you have to do well in tests and to do well in tests, you have to revise (unless your a genius). Revision is time-consuming, sometimes boring, but annoyingly necessary to succeed. If we didn’t attend school, we wouldn’t have to revise, problem solved. However if you can make revision work for you, find a way to enjoy it, it doesn’t have to be such a chore.
  4. Pressure from parents (sometimes teachers) – Not saying school is the cause of all pressure from parents but it’s a big reason for me anyway. My parents except me to get 100% in every test, perfect reports and its always good but I can “do better”. To be fair they could be worse, they’re relaxed at times, but they’re always on my back for me to do my homework or revise. I mean they’re right and want me to succeed but… (Although this holiday, for the first time perhaps ever, I got tired of my parents pestering me, so I stayed up till 2am and finished all my homework) I love them really, I’m making them sound like monsters!
  5. The people at school – I’m in Year 10 now and it’s taken me four years to find a proper friendship group. It’s a group of about 6 and I’m not that close with all of them, but I trust them and enjoy spending time with them. Over the years, I’ve learnt that it’s not about have lots and lots of friends, but a few you can trust. Although shout out to my best friend, (let’s call her Jessica) who has been my close friend since year 7 and still is. Let’s just say there’s a lot of people at school I strongly dislike and don’t like to be around. (I’ll explain another day)
  6. The social hierarchy – Not to be dramatic, but the groups they show you in American movies, are not far off the ones in real life. You’ve got the “jocks” and their simpering girlfriends, the bitchy girl group, the edgy group, the artists, actors, the list continues. I’ll probably do a separate post about the ones at my school later. Anyway everything revolves around popularity at school, your “status” determines how people treat you, whether they even acknowledge you. At the moment I’m happy with my place at school. There was a time 2 – 3 years ago where I desperately wanted to be popular, I wanted to have thousands of followers and everyone to want to be my friend. But now, I’ve realised, how popular you are at school means nothing at all. Being popular at school may make you feel more confident or important, but your confidence and self-worth should be determined by you and you only. What others think of you is their problem, focus on yourself and you’ll realise popularity and happiness will follow. Because confidence is attractive and draws people in, so if you really want to be popular, focus on your own self.

School sucks but it’s not all that bad, these are just a few reasons I don’t enjoy school. However one of the things, I like about school (this post can’t be all negative) is seeing my friends, I laugh so much at school and I love complaining and ranting about things with them. I even enjoy some of my lessons, PE – my favourite, did I mention I love sport (I’ll get more into that soon) , Biology- I love learning about the body and the natural ways of the world and English- despite the countless assessments we do and PEARL paragraphs, I actually enjoy it.

Anyway, I was in the mood to write about school today since I’m going back soon. I’ve thought about some of the things I’m going to write about so keep reading! I’m still trying to get into the swing of things and decide my writing style. I’ll get there though! Comment as well!

Best wishes,


Secondary School Girl💕


Hello readers!

Thank you for taking the time to stop by my blog!😀This is my very first post and hopefully not my last (I’m hopeless at commitment) as today (a spontaneous decision made at 9:00 PM) I finally decided to start my very own blog!

Why did I want to do this?

Firstly, I enjoy writing, (strange, IKR) not necessarily writing long essays about poetry or Shakespeare, (although I’m not too bad at it) because as well as this being interesting to others, I am practicing my writing. I like reading too.

Secondly, I’ve always wanted to write a diary. I have tried and failed many times to do so (never writing for more than a week or two), but I’ve always liked the thought of being able to look back one day and see what I did and how I felt (Although I’m not sure if this will be daily).

Thirdly, I’d like to say I’m good at giving advice, I hope that by others reading this blog they can learn and that anything I say can help in any way (I know sometimes it is very difficult to know what to do, I think I can help with that). Relationship advice, friendship advice, school advice, whatever I can.

Lastly, I have a lot to say about school, secondary school in particular. Having gone through most of it now, i know the process and not as terrible as it seems (although it can be pretty unbearable). I think people my age would want to hear about it too, because let’s be honest, it’s pretty relatable, the majority of us go to school (unless your lucky, or unlucky😬). So year 7, even primary school, if you’re at school, come read my blog!

Kick back and relax

So hopefully you haven’t thrown your phone in disgust yet. Look forward to advice, rants, and just my opinions on things and also a diary. (Everything really 👍) I’ll try my best! Please give me a chance and read some of my posts and comment advice and ur thoughts on them. I’d love to hear from you! Come read my blog! You might learn something!

Best wishes and a warm welcome,


Secondary School Girl 💖